The past few weeks of blog posts by DF have been extremely helpful for me as a parent and as an adult who has interactions on a daily basis with a fast-growing toddler. The blogs have addressed the fundamental precepts of the T.E.L.L. method; they’ve provided a foundation for adults to build from when communicating with children of any age. Though I am involved with TELL Our Children, I am still relatively new to the T.E.L.L. method, and the weekly blogs are wonderful reminders to me.
At its core, the T.E.L.L. method is simple: Teach, Encourage, Listen, Love.
However, it’s easy to forget something new, especially if you’re used to doing something a certain way or if you just have a hard time remembering new things (count me in that category). It’s also easy to lose patience or revert back to old habits in times of stress or if you’re rushing to do something or get somewhere, etc. I’ve learned and witnessed that first-hand.
And even though I read the TELL blogs every week (sometimes more than once!), I found it useful to create other reminders for myself to make sure I’m T.E.L.L.ing my daughter, not just telling.
They are simple reminders that I post on my mirrors or my refrigerator so I see them on a daily basis. It’s four simple words, yes, but four simple words that carry a lot of meaning and if used properly can help strengthen and deepen the bond I have with my daughter and improve our relationship for BOTH of us.
If you’re having a hard time remembering the fundamentals of the T.E.L.L. message, consider leaving yourself physical reminders, too.
And if you need a refresher, here are the links to the previous blogs that outline the foundation of T.E.L.L.