103 – We are willing to try a new way to tell our story; are you?

In Monday’s blog post, we shared with you that over the past few months, we have been asking ourselves, “What is the story of Tell Our Children? What story do we want to create, to tell?” We recognized that there were definite gaps between what story we wanted to create and what story we had been telling up to this point. We are asking ourselves, “How can we tell a better story? What would a more successful story look like?” We continue to think about and try to answer these questions. We are rethinking our day-to-day work and our long-term goals. We are seeking new ways and trying new ways to tell our story better.

It isn’t easy to recognize when you are NOT doing something that you thought was successful, that you thought was accomplishing your goals, telling the story you wanted. Even when you do realize it, it’s even harder to make a change to what you know how to do. Sometimes, you just continue to do what you have been doing and hope that somehow, someway your story will still emerge, that you will still be successful.

For Tell Our Children, we had two choices. We could take a passive approach and continue to do what we were doing, and hope our story would be told. Or we could take a more active approach and be willing to try new ways to tell our story.

We are choosing the second option. We are first willing to admit that our story wasn’t emerging in the right way, and we are willing to try something new in order to make that happen.

Being willing is always the first step to trying something new, to making a change. Changes can’t happen if you aren’t first willing to make them, willing to realize that there might be a better way. We are willing to put in the work to tell our story.

And our story is about becoming better at interacting with ourselves, with others, and with children. We believe that story is best told by t.e.l.l.ing; that is, by teaching, encouraging, listening, and loving. We must t.e.l.l. ourselves. We must t.e.l.l. others. We must t.e.l.l. our children.

Once we were really honest with ourselves, we saw that we weren’t t.e.l.l.ing in the best way, and we are willing to try a new way.

Are you? Where would you rank yourself today on how you interact with others?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Is that the story you want to tell?

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076: Resolve to T.E.L.L. a child better this year!

Happy 2016! A new year brings excitement, new possibilities, and new resolutions! This year, let’s all resolve to help one another know our children better. Let’s come together and inspire one another with new ideas about how we can help our youth grow up stronger, more peaceful, and joyful.

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Children are eager to be changed for the better. It’s important for them to have at least one adult walking close with them during childhood, someone to point things out, tell them better. You can be that adult, and we can all learn from you.

Simply stated, every time we interact with a child, we t.e.l.l. – whether we realize it or not, we teach, encourage, listen, and love to some degree – why not make it to a higher degree? Interactions are part of our everyday lives, and they matter, especially in situations where a child is facing a challenge.

This year, resolve to know the children in your life better, to t.e.l.l. them better. Let us know if you accept this goal by sending us an email. Include any questions or comments you would like to discuss in the Show & T.E.L.L. Blog this year. Also, if you have a story to share, please do! Will you also resolve to share your t.e.l.l.ing experiences with others? Will you ask at least two of your friends to subscribe to the Show & T.E.L.L Blog? That way you can share how you t.e.l.l. the children in your lives, and then later you can post your thoughts on the blog!

This year is expected to be a breakthrough year at Tell Our Children! We have many ideas and many possibilities; however, one of our goals is to introduce a conversation thread to the Show & T.E.L.L. Blog so we can continue these conversations. This is just one of the ways we hope to unite and inspire more caregivers to t.e.l.l. children this year.

Happy New Year!

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015: The difference between telling a child and T.E.L.L.ing a child

When you T.E.L.L., your words share your point of view AND more importantly, your words allow you to connect with the child’s thoughts and feelings.

There is a difference in telling your child and T.E.L.L.ing your child. When you tell, you are merely sharing your current thoughts and feelings with the child. You hope what comes out of your mouth is said in such a way the child hears and understands your words. In summary, when you tell a child, you are communicating a one-way message. It is to the child from you. These conversations may, or may not, benefit a child.

On the other hand, when you T.E.L.L. a child, your intent is to try and make it a two-way interaction. Your point of view and the child’s point of view are taken into consideration. You pause and think about what the child might be feeling and thinking in the moment. If possible, you might even ask questions to be sure you are clear about what he or she is thinking and feeling in that moment. When you T.E.L.L., your words share your point of view AND more importantly, your words allow you to connect with the child’s thoughts and feelings.

We have shared a few T.E.L.L.ing stories in previous blogs. For example, one where a mom is trying to get her three-year-old daughter to clean up (click here to read this); or a mom who put her young son in time out (click here to read this story); there is also a story of a father and teenage son talking about lying (click here to read this story).

Do you have a story about interacting with your child? If you are willing to share it, please email us at (contact@tellourchildren).

You may also send an email if you have a question or comment. This is one way we can begin having more two-way conversations with our readers! We want to do whatever we can to T.E.L.L. you about interacting with children. We hope to hear from you soon.

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